Ep.88 Amber Dodzweit Riposta: Why Real Empowerment Ain't Built on Abs & A Booty

"I love to work out, I love to run. And you know, there was no end goal for me.
There was no body I had in mind. I just did what I was made to do;
what I love."

- Amber Dodzweit Riposta, Ep88. The Monica Kade Podcast

 

Yes, she’s beautiful, got a killer smile and is a weapon in the gym. And yes, she has a physique that so many women would kill for. But that’s not what I love most about this woman. What inspired me to have her on the podcast was her honesty, humility and ability to not take herself too seriously in an industry that does.  

In Episode 88 of The Monica Kade Podcast: Why Real Empowerment Ain't Built On Abs & A Booty, I sit down with Amber Dodzweit Riposta; a women's circuit training expert, 13x fitness cover model, All-American Track and Field athlete and X-national champion professional tackle football player. She created BUILT FOR HER (an online women's athletic training club) in 2014 to teach women how to find freedom and a deeper sense of purpose through athletic training and empowerment. She lives in Fort Lauderdale, Florida and is married to Holistic Nutritionist Andrew Riposta. She also creates athletic training content for women from all over the world with the basis that a woman's appearance must always be secondary to her capabilities. 

She’s had her own trials and tribulations like the rest of us, but it’s her determined nature that’s enabled her to rise into who she is today. Oh, and if you’re still hung up on her physique, you HAVE to listen to this conversation. Because as she shares, her love for working out was never to attain a particular body shape. 

 

Our chat is a beautiful reminder around being true to oneself, following what you love and when we do so we give space for those around us to do the same. 

I’ve watched her social media presence evolve over the years, and while I feel she’s always shared uplifting and empowering messages, it’s now more than ever that I resonate and feel her message is much needed in our world. 

Oh, be sure to join her team for The Oxygen Challenge #5. Do that here.

 

Learn About: 

-  Her family, where she grew up and in what part they played in athletic interests
-  How she got into fitness modelling
-  How quickly her career took off and what she truly felt behind the success
-  Who she became once she started fitness modelling
-  What influence and impact the people around her had on her career and life
-  Why she chose to walk away from a high flying fitness modelling career
-  The most eye opening experience the modelling industry have given her
-  What inspired her to be more real with her social media audience
-  Does she think there’ll be a time in the future where body image won’t play such a huge part in our lives?
-  How Built For Her (her online training club) came to fruition

 

Signature Questions: 

-  Sunset or Sunrise and why?
-  What career would Amber attempt if not in her current one?
-  A piece of wisdom she lives by?

 

Transcript: 

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Monica Kade:00:01   You're listening to the Monica Kade Podcast, a conscious approach to all things health and lifestyle, empowering you to be your best self in each moment because the truth is that's all we ever have. On Mondays I bring you Pep Talks for Your Soul, an episode sharing, personal conscious lifestyle tips that'll help you make better choices in all areas of your life. Each Wednesday you'll get an interview with a game changing entrepreneur, creative mind or thought leader doing what they love and challenging the status quo. These people move me, they're changing the world and I hope they change yours. Let's dive into this week's conversation.

Monica Kade:00:39   Welcome to the Monica Kade Podcast. My guest today is Amber Dodzweit Riposta. She's a women's circuit training expert, 13 times fitness cover model, all American track and field athlete and x national champion professional tackle football player, which is pretty incredible and very cool if you ask me for a woman, but she's no ordinary chick to be honest. Well she is, but she isn't and you'll find out why in our conversation. She's also created BUILT FOR HER (an online women's athletic training club) in 2014 to teach women how to find freedom and a deeper sense of purpose through athletic training and empowerment. Currently residing in Fort Lauderdale, Florida and Married to Holistic Nutritionist Andrew Riposta. Amber also creates athletic training content. The women all over the world with the basis that a woman's appearance must always be secondary to her capabilities. We as women have the tendency to be too focused on our body image and how we're supposed to look by the standards of what the media and the magazines portray.

Monica Kade:01:42   So this conversation is really shining a light on that and showing you what the industry looks like from the inside. For someone who's been a fitness model athlete and had a really fascinating personal journey through this, we go all the way back and then take you right to where she is now and you can see the journey and who she's become today. I initially in our conversation thought that I had been following her for about five years, but it turns out it's been over 10 years. I couldn't believe that I was calculating on my hands...So let's dive in right now. Hello amber, thank you so much for joining me today.

Amber Dodzweit :02:18   Thank you for having me. I'm really excited.

Monica Kade:02:20   Me Too. I've been following you for many years. I actually, I think I must have found you on Instagram like I dunno, five years ago, but maybe...More when I was training for a bodybuilding competition and that's when I kind of started following you and your messages and, and it's been really enjoyable kind of just saying the changes over the years. So I'm very stoked we can have a chat.

Amber Dodzweit :02:48   Me Too. I never, it never gets easier to hear that somebody has been following you for a certain number of years or whatever because of from my end, I'm just kind of living my life and doing the best that I can to know that there have been certain eyes and this is something that I hear quite often, but knowing that there have been eyes on me through even like major life changes that never, it's never, it's always humbling. I'll just leave it at that. And it's, um, I'm so, I'm very thankful.

Monica Kade:03:15   Beautiful. Actually, um, you just mentioned something then in terms of having all eyes on you and it must be really interesting, you know, cause you do have quite a sizeable audience so I won't jumping to that just yet. But I do want to talk about a social media with you later on, but I thought we could start off with for our audience. Just getting a bit of background around you and you know, exercise and working out has been such a huge part of your life. And I'm curious to know, was that something that was fostered in your family growing up?

Amber Dodzweit :03:44   So I would say that my family is all very athletic, but nobody has taken it to the level that I have. So I come from like a missionary family. So I'm the most American out of all of us. So my parents spent close to 30 years overseas in Africa, Central Africa. So the Congo, my sister was there for the majority of her life, came back when she was a sophomore in high school and my brother was actually born there. He has dual citizenship and I was only there until I was about six years old. So out of all of us, I am the most American, so I kind of had the biggest chance take it into things like competitive sports and the whole fitness industry I think still kind of confused as my parents. So it's very interesting with they're very proud and um, I just have this insane support with my family and the people around me.

Amber Dodzweit :04:49   So, um, I started out really young just playing sports. I wanted to just be one of the boys. I'm still kind of that way. And um, so I just really dove head first into being an athlete as much as I could. I remember I started going to the weight room before school at five in the morning starting before I was even in high school. So I think I was an eighth grader and I was getting up early to train before school and I would go to school all day and then I would have track practice after school. And I did that all the way up until I graduated. And then I went on to run track in college as well. So yeah. So my track career kind of ended up in this crazy fitness industry that even I didn't know existed. So it's been a wild ride.

Monica Kade:05:36   Yeah, it sounds like. So do you feel like you, uh, were you a self starter? Were you determined to kind of put in those hours, because you're obviously getting up at 5:00 AM and you're still pretty young and that's not common amongst many teenagers, but you obviously had something driving you. What was that in a fuel?

Amber Dodzweit :05:55   So the thing that I had that I don't think many people do, and granted I am a self starter and when I decide to do something, I follow through with it. It's the decision that was first and foremost, very important. So at first of all, I decided that no matter what I was going to do this, but even throughout my career as an athlete, I, there were plenty of times where I didn't want to have to rise to the occasion. I didn't want to race. There was a ton of pressure on me to win and it really freaked me out and I am not, believe it or not, I'm not a center of attention, sort of personality by nature. I had to learn how to manage that, but what I had that most people don't, as I had this coach that completely believed in who I was as an athlete and held me to such a standard that the last thing that I was willing to do was disappoint him.

Amber Dodzweit :06:54   So the fact that now I can kind of step on the scene and be a coach figure for some of the women across the country and across the world really that I trained, that's kind of like me paying it forward. I'm never going to be half the coach that he was, but I think that people really underestimate someone. Just kind of stepping into your life saying, Hey, I know you have what it takes. All you need to do is show up and you're going to, in the fifth grade he told me easy, you're going to be a star. And that was like a life speaking sentence that I remember to this day and it, it changed my whole trajectory because I believed him.

Monica Kade:07:32   It's so powerful having that kind of a support and then also that belief. I was actually pondering on this the other day, I can't remember the context exactly, but it was a similar thought. I was just wondering like as a child, if a certain belief is just given to you and that it becomes your absolute, does that, you know, change the trajectory of your life and what you naturally feel you're capable of? Oh, that's right. I remember I was watching something on Instagram and it was something about this father and what he was talking to his young little girl about about being confident and self love. And I just thought, wow, I wonder how that goes. Life is going to unfold in the future. You know, when she has, she knows nothing else but this, this sense of self belief and who knows, you know, maybe that's going to change. I'm sure. You know, as we go through life, we have experiences and there's always ups and downs. That's, that's really interesting.

Amber Dodzweit :08:26   It is. And I think that people either rise because of their upbringing and the powerful things are spoken over them or in spite of it. And I think that there's a lot of people out there that have been dealt a hand that has been very difficult and very hard. A lot of things that they never anticipated and they rise to the top because that's just who they are. And it's at the end of the a choice. A lot of people will settle on, oh, this is the hand that I've been dealt and I just, I'm just not cut out for success or purpose or whatever this, you know, whatever it might be. And there's other people that just say, you know what, I've been through a lot because I'm destined for great things and it's just preparation and they just continue on in spite of it. And I really think that it just boils down to like what actually are you going to believe about yourself? And it's, it's so important and at the end of the day, yeah, we can believe in each other as much as we want, but you have to have a deep sort of revelation about what you're on this planet for.

Monica Kade:09:31   Would you say, I mean, I feel like that's something that as we go through in life, we start to question you know, a little bit more. At what point for you do you feel you started having that conversation with yourself? Like you said that you knew you were, I guess going to do something great. Probably felt that within, but did you still have that internal struggle of what direction to go in?

Amber Dodzweit :09:57   Oh yeah. And you know what the truth is, I don't think that ever goes away. I think that I still, I still have very questioning moments. I still question, most of the time when I'm in front of people or in certain circumstances where people are looking to me for answers or even this podcast, I feel nine times out of 10 like I should be the one on the other side than I am. Like I'm like, I am no different from anybody. I am so the same and so normal. It's not even funny. I kind of like look at my life, I'm like okay, what is going on? And people are like, oh how did you do this and how did you do that? And I'm like, you know what, I wish I knew. I just decided that I was going to move forward no matter what. And it has been real, real ugly at times. Real ugly.

Monica Kade:10:48   This is what I've loved about you. And, and you know, observing your journey. I found that what you share across social media, you are really authentic. You know, you are sharing not just the highlights and all the, the, you know, beautiful glossy moments, but you also kind of say it like it is. And I think that's probably also why you draw so many different people towards you and have all these questions because you're not just standing there as a perfect poster. You know that people can really relate to you. You are relatable. And I think, I know that's what I really love about your message as well.

Amber Dodzweit :11:28   Well thank you. I, I can say that there's been enough time spent in my life hiding from what the truth is and having to pretend or having to, you know, I'll, I'll let people know this but I couldn't possibly let them know this other part of me. I've spent so much of my life like that, that, that I have sort of just opened the book to who amber is. I'm just so excited to be honest about everything because when you spend your life kind of hiding and oh, I can't, you know, I was in an, uh, an abusive relationship for a very long time. But during the course of that relationship, I was on eight magazine covers. So here I am in miserable in this relationship, but I am telling the world how happy and amazing my life is. You know what I mean? So now that that part of my life is over, I couldn't be more thrilled to just be like, hey guys, by the way, I had pizza last night. I'm, you know, feeling this way. I am not what you think I am. But the, the good thing is is the industry now is changing and it wants what's real. Like people need, people need what the truth is and they don't even know how much they need it. But that's, I think what people are gravitating more and more towards. Like social media is like mine. So you know,

Monica Kade:12:54   I guess where you are now and, and you've come out of that dark, darker times, can you maybe talk a little bit about what it was like initially to, I guess how you maybe give us a bit of background, how you got into the modeling side of things and then who did you become as you went into that?

Amber Dodzweit :13:14   Sure. Yeah. So I started, so I was in college on a full athletic scholarship and they, a relationship that I had just mentioned prior, that person kind of laid out an ultimatum and was like, you need to give up your track scholarship and you need to move. So, um, that was, that was it. And I was just, I was a baby. So at this point in time, I was about 19, 20 years old and I didn't, I hadn't really grown the capability to put my foot down and say no. Um, and I think that that some people are born with that. Some people have to learn how to do that. I had to learn how to put my foot down, so I hadn't learned how to do that yet. So I, I sacrificed and gave up this full athletic scholarship. I was on track to Ah, hopefully try out for the Olympic trials.

Amber Dodzweit :14:08   And so all of that just went kind of down the tubes. And so I left school, I was going to night school and I was working like 14 hours a day doing hair and makeup for a photography studio. And, um, so as a part of being, you know, getting people ready for photo shoots and things like that, I would have to just stand in to test the, um, the lighting. And I remember I stood in for this one particular day and the photographer was like, Hey, this is really good picture. Do you mind if I use this in my portfolio? And I was like, no, I don't care. Whatever. He used the photo in his portfolio and I think that he posted it on some like online management site that he had going and he just attached to my email and the next day I had like my email, my email inbox was completely just overflowing with messages of like, Hey, saw you on so and so's, you know, profile, I'd love to work with you. And I was like, first and foremost, this is super creepy.

Amber Dodzweit :15:15   And with this industry you really have to be careful. You really have to pick and choose. And so I just kind of sorted through and I found one particular person that seemed fairly trustworthy and I was like, okay, well might as well just give this a shot. So from that photo shoot, Paul Buceta set up with oxygen magazine, saw an image from that photo shoot and almost immediately they flew me out to Toronto ah, where Oxygen was at the time and to do a photoshoot. And from that photoshoot came my first cover. Like literally knowing absolutely nothing about what a macronutrient is, what models are supposed to eat or not eat, what fitness modeling is. I have no clue. And so here I am, I was 24 first cover came out and I think like the night before I had just like casually watch movies and eat cookies and popcorn like this.

Amber Dodzweit :16:12   And you can tell, you can tell definitely how my physique has evolved over time. But I was in shape because I just loved, I was an athlete. You know, I, I love to work out, I love to run. And you know, it wasn't like there was no end goal for me. There was no body I had in mind. I just did what I was made to do what I love. And that as a huge part of the message of, of now you know, coaching people and it's just like, hey, you got to find what allows you to feel better. You will look better, but you need to find what allows you to feel that way and the results will come. Uh, yeah. So then the, it was all kind of a wild, crazy ride from there. Um, I booked a bunch of covers after that.

Amber Dodzweit :16:54   I signed with Wilhelmina Models and then I just was in like more mainstream places like Dick's sporting goods. I think I'm still on the wall at Kohl's and the shoe department somewhere. So, so just to this crazy career and then I think eight covers into it or 10 covers into it. I, I just completely walked away from the industry because I was so bummed out that when you book jobs as a human being, they don't really care what you are capable of. All they care about is what you look like. And that was a deal breaker for me. So I had spent my whole life being trained to perform and then I started living my life where I was training for this like image and it was just so far from who I am. I just couldn't, I couldn't like go forward, not another day, so I just said deleted all my social media. I left, I, my agent wanted to murder me. Um, I used to got tattoos, I cut my hair and yeah. So I would just like fell off the face of the planet for about almost two years. And then I came back probably about six years ago, which is probably when you started following me again. That was right right after that big break that I took.

Monica Kade:18:09   Wow. What a, what a journey. Um, oh, sorry. So many questions, but I guess one that stands out is how did you have the courage to turn around and say, no. I know you mentioned, you know, it was a feeling of it being so far away from you. Did it take some time before you made that decision or was it kind of something just snapped and you just were like, no, I'm not doing this anymore.

Amber Dodzweit :18:35   Um, it took time, but it took practice. It took like, it's really something like exercise that it gets stronger with use. So the more you learn how to kind of draw the line in the sand and say, Hey, this is for me, but this isn't the better you get at it. Um, and I really started to learn, you know, my mom always said something that has stuck with me my whole life. She was always like, you, no matter what anybody says, no matter what anybody thinks is right for you, you need to follow peace. And so I didn't know what piece felt like. I was like, I'm, I am. Don't know what you mean. So I started to understand what she meant by that. And she always said, you know, when you sent a stillness, kind of like internally and it brings you peace to think about a circumstance you need to move in that direction.

Amber Dodzweit :19:32   And then the opposite is true. If you start thinking about a circumstance and it brings you like on ease and we're not talking about anxiety or like, you know, fear, sometimes you need to face your fear to get to where you need to go. But she was more talking about like, when you know, like in that deep place that something's not right. You, you just need to understand the difference between what peace is and what, you know, not feeling peaceful is. And so I just started to learn and just started making like changes a little bit at a time and it's, uh, it was really just practice, like kind of, you know, not just going along with what everybody else wanted. That was a huge, huge, huge people pleaser.

Monica Kade:20:13   Mmm. Yeah. And it's, and it is for so many people, I know that I can relate. For me it's been a practice kind of more as I've gotten older to also just say no to things that don't align with who I am and who I want to be and not then be concerned, you know, like, no, this isn't for me. And that's okay. It doesn't need to be anything else. We don't have to always agree to everything. And I think, I don't, I'm curious to know cause it sounds you are a very determined individual. And I guess for me, I was growing up, I was taught that excuses like there's no real excuse. And so for me there was like, I don't just don't make excuses, which then when it came to people asking for do you want to do this or can you help me with this? Or can this be done? I was, I changed myself all this time to be like, of course you can get through this and you can achieve this, you know, whether it be in work or all kinds of situations. And then I started noticing that that wasn't necessarily supporting me either because of course there are some things that can be done and it's not always going to be necessarily an excuse. Sometimes it just isn't for you.

Amber Dodzweit :21:22   Right. And sometimes, you know, the wisest thing we can do is create boundaries. You know? And there's nothing wrong with that because you can't, you can't cut yourself and to pieces to feed everybody else because at the end of the day, when you need to step forward as a whole person, there's nothing left. And, um, you kind of have to be diligent in protecting the whole person that you are and sometimes your time, your effort, all of that needs to be preserved for yourself. Otherwise you end up running on empty. And that's, it's super smart to start creating those boundaries. I have a, you know, a lot of my athletes are, you know, yes. People as far as, you know, their kids, their husbands, you know, and then at the end of the day, there's no time left for them to even get a 20 minute session and for a workout because they're just tapped out. So, and that, you know, for people when they start having health concerns and things like that, it's like, you know, things got to go. You can't say yes to everything. And if people are disappointed, may a, maybe they're not the right people in your life, and B, they'll get over it. You know what I mean?

Monica Kade:22:32   Yeah. So true. Yes, absolutely. What would you say is the greatest eyeopening experience you took away from that part of your life?

Amber Dodzweit :22:43   I think that the biggest, like the biggest takeaway that I had from that experience is that you can redefine yourself as many times as you want to. You know, any given day you can wake up and you can decide that the landscape of your life looks nothing like you want it to and you can change it. And then the following year you can look back at that time and it can be a one 80 from where you were at if you just continue making daily decisions to walk in the opposite direction. So when I learned that, I started kind of like realizing that I had underestimated myself and I think a lot of people spend enough time underestimating themselves and you know, once you kind of see over time what you've been capable of and how, how far you've gotten from where you started, it's just, it's crazy.

Amber Dodzweit :23:35   So I think that that was like the biggest thing that I took away from that time was if at any point I don't like, and granted not, you're going to be super thrilled with your life every single second of the day. There are struggles. There's real things that you have to work through. But at when you looking in like say a topic of you know, abuse, are people going to jobs that they absolutely hate every single day. It's like every one of us has the power to kind of grab a hold of ourselves and say, all right, either you luck, either you don't like it and you don't change it, then no more complaining. You just have to deal or you don't like it. You change it and you just start making, taking action to make it look different every single day. And I think that's what I learned. And then you know, you don't feel stuck that way. You don't feel, I felt so, so paralyzed very, very for a very long time in my life.

Monica Kade:24:33   Did you ever feel that you would be letting people down if you made the decision to walk away as well?

Amber Dodzweit :24:43   Oh yeah. Yup. And I did. I did let people down and that kind of, I have this sort of like just bury your head in the sand sand mentality and kind of compartmentalize your choices from people's reactions where it's like, this is my choice. I'm moving forward in this direction. People are not going to be super thrilled with this, but at the end of the day, nobody else is living our lives. And I had to remind myself of that and I had to go through, you know, enough times to where I ignored what I thought and I just went along with what everyone else thought was best for me. And then I had to learn how wrong they were to realize that I needed to start making my own choices because if I kept on making everyone else's, you know, they don't, they were never panning out the way that I thought.

Monica Kade:25:37   That's really insightful and I think it's really supportive for our listeners because I know there will be a lot of people that are at those crossroads and uh, wanting to make a change but us, so concerned about, oh, letting all these people around them down. So thank you for sharing that. I think it's going to really support some of our listeners.

Monica Kade:26:00   I'd like to just chat a little bit about body image and social media. And I mentioned in the beginning that, you know, you do have a sizable social media following and I love that and you're using it for good and inspiring people. And in fact, I have had so many chuckles at your recent, uh, some of your recent posts, especially when you do your little body comparison images and the comments that you write. They're funny and, but also insightful you know? And there was one particular one that you took, um, you know, doing kind of a side on pose and sticking your booty out a bit. And I loved how you said something along the lines of like, who even invented this pose? Like, why does it look good or something like that. And I laughed. So it is kind of when you make light of the situation rather than taking these things so seriously, it's like, why do we do these poses and why is that recognized or seen in a particular light? Like why do people look at that and go, Oh wow, I look so great.

Amber Dodzweit :27:15   It makes no sense [laughs].

Monica Kade:27:16   I know. It's so silly. What have you found, uh, in your community has been the response since you've been showing such a contrast to the different images?

Amber Dodzweit :27:29   You know, I think that people are so relieved. And the reason that I started doing that was, you know, I'm in the fitness industry, social media influencer, whatever you want to call it. And I was scrolling through Instagram looking at some of these girls with like millions of followers and I was looking at them and then I was looking at my feet and I was looking at their feed and I was looking at mine and I was like, well, clearly if I want to be more successful and more get more followers and blah, blah, blah, I need to try to be more like this. And I remember one day I sat down and I was like, all right, I'm going to try, I'm going to take one of these selfies, blah, blah, blah. And it was such a disgrace. It was like these are the most awful entire life.

Amber Dodzweit :28:32   And I, at that point in time, something broke and I was like, this is so ridiculous that I'm a spent this much time trying to be something that is just impossible. And, and in that moment I realized that it had so messed with my head that people out there that are all across social media channels have to be feeling the same thing. So in that moment, I literally just did, I chose the opposite. I was like, you know what, I give up. I am not going to try this anymore. I'm just going to go the other direction. And so I just did a one 80 and I was like, you know what? I've rolled my leggings down and I just let my stomach hang out. And I was like, I don't care. I really just don't care. So, and it was in that moment that people were like a, this is exactly what I needed to see.

Amber Dodzweit :29:23   I'm so sick of thinking that, you know, people that I follow on social media are, you know better than me because they always look like they're an amazing shape and all of this stuff. And, and I think that the, what makes me upset about this situation with social media influencers is that they aren't taking the influence they have over people's lives seriously. And they're underestimating the impact that they're having. Like a lot of times these people have more impact on lives then other people's sets, spouses, then their friends because it is filtered and it is controlled. So that I think people that are, you know, posting things on social media that have these large followings, they need to get that. It's like, Hey, I know that you want to get as many likes as possible and you want your following to grow and all of this but like you have people's lives in your hands right now.

Amber Dodzweit :30:24    And I started really kind of understand the magnitude and again all this stuff like comes with age and experience and like I've been doing this for a very long time but you know, if I could get all the social media influencers that are younger and starting to learn the things that I've learned, I would just like to just tell them, hey you think that this social media is about you and it's not. It's about everybody else. So start posting that way and care about who you're affecting. And I just, I hope that that's where the industry starts to go. Whether or not it will, I have no idea.

Monica Kade:31:01   Do you think that would possibly ever be a point in time in the future where we're not so focused as a society on our self worth being tied to how we look?

Amber Dodzweit :31:16   You know, I think that, I want to say yes, but I think that with social media it's so visual and it gives us such access immediately that it would be a very, very hard thing to take people away from imagery. I mean our world has been building and you know, the lives and careers and billions and billions and billions of dollars on how things appear. So I think that with the millennials though, I do think that they are less apt to be fooled and they are more, they're very um, straightforward, which I love that. And they're very open and upfront about demanding what's real. And I think that what we see will start to change. But I think that it will always be, you know, what we see, it's just a matter of how real people are willing, willing to get with it.

Monica Kade:32:11   Well thank you for, you know, taking a stand towards that and you know, sharing insights on fitness. And Body and in the way that you do because it's so helps and know I guess as well because I have that feeling of remembering all those years ago when I was training for a bodybuilding competition. And I remember you were such an inspiration for me at that time as well. And, but also I didn't have that knowledge then that I also now having gone through all those different processes about how our bodies change and they don't always look the same and, and how our emotions and the things that we're going through in our life impact the way our body looks and to not be so goddamn hard on ourselves. You know, it's, it's just to win more than just a body, all of us. And so I think, you know, the work that you are doing is so supportive to everyone out there. So thank you.

Amber Dodzweit :33:07   I appreciate that. It's, you know, it's interesting when you talk about like why people are alive and purpose and I'm, I'm a huge believer in people having things that they can specifically speak to that will carry weight and create change. And a lot of the stuff that I've posted in all realness is just as much for myself to remind myself that I don't have to be what everyone else is putting out there and that it's okay and it's, it sets me free from all of that, like worrying because when you put the truth out there, it really does just kind of release you from worrying about what anybody else is doing. You're like, listen, my truth is out there and I am good with that. And uh, it's, it's like a very liberating feeling and I would just, I wish that everybody could just kind of whatever they feel that they're putting on, I just wish they'd just take all that off and just live their lives and be exactly who they are because that it's, it's a great, great, great feeling.

Monica Kade:34:08   Before we wrap up our interview, I do want to talk about Built For Her your athletic training program that's online now. What I really loved about this is how you also want to encourage a deeper sense of purpose through this and empowerment. Do you want to talk a little bit about that? And why this program is different to others.

Amber Dodzweit :34:30   Sure. So I created, um, Built For Her. It lives on www.builtforher.com and it's kind of a site that you can go there and download. There's a few different program options. I have some two week options and four week options. Once you download a pdf, it's, you know, nutrition guidelines, a training plan. But what that does is it gives you access to a Facebook group of all these women that have trained with me in the past. And I like to bring people together so they can just kind of talk about what they're facing, what's going on, um, how their workout was that day. And you know, it's, it's actually been such an amazing thing to watch how women really gravitate towards each other. And then, you know, periodically I'll have an event where I invite all of my athletes that have downloaded one of these programs to meet in person.

Amber Dodzweit :35:24   And so the craziest thing that I've ever seen is watching women that I'm never met each other on real life, finally come together, meet in person and the friendships that they've built, they're like inseparable. We're talking like two years later. So it's just such an amazing tool. And you know, I create all of my downloads with the basis that how you look should never come before who you are. And a lot of times we want to download training programs because we want to look a certain way, but that's not a big enough why. Because if you have abs or you know a great physique in your body, mass is super lean and you feel great, that's so temporary because once something real happens in your life, if you lose your job or a year, you know someone in your family passes away, you quickly realize that when you look in the mirror and you have a six pack, it doesn't make you feel any better about what's actually happening in your life.

Amber Dodzweit :36:23   So I like to give people tools to help them get a bigger sense of why they're training is important. I like to, you know, have conversations about where some of their habits stem from so that we can go to the root of the issue and deal with it. And then moving forward, they have a much better time seeing results because you know, they're, they're not hung up on past issues. You know, I deal with this a lot with competitors and things like that, but if your why is not big enough, you're motivation is always going to be temporary. And with temporary motivation, you know, we're all motivated sometimes and not in others, but if your why isn't as big as you need it to be, you're always going to get derailed and have to start over. So I like to give people the tools of how to stop starting over.

Speaker 3:37:15   That comes to also in play with like very balanced nutrition, very balanced, um, training plans so that they're not overworked and under fueled. And Yeah. So it's been like a huge passion of mine to just kind of get people one step closer. I think that a lot of women specifically are kind of self destructing and self sabotaging and hiding behind bad habits as far as nutrition and training. And it's keeping them from what they're supposed to actually be doing. So I like to bring them into a place of feeling more confident so they can step into more opportunity and ultimately, you know, just gain a happier, happier life with more sense of who they are.

Monica Kade:37:55   You know, I love that because I think as society has this thing where exercise and nutrition is often used as like a means to an end, you know, whereas I feel like you're really bringing the love back to it. It's like take away the stuff that you know you've taught yourself to believe or that over time where you've picked up along the way and you know, strip that away and you know, find your sense of self stop moving your body. And, and when you do that from a space of not having to need it, like some sort of a result, not that the need isn't there. Like naturally your body is in a relaxed state when you're doing this, so you're going to have better results anyway.

Amber Dodzweit :38:35   Absolutely. And that is so absolutely true. And you know, even when it comes to my own training, people were like, oh, you must spend hours in the gym. I'm like, no, because there are more important things in my life than being at the gym. Hmm. I have a relationship that I'm extremely invested in. I have a happy marriage because we go to the gym, we get our workouts done, but we spend time together. That's a priority for me. My job is a priority for me, so I'm not going to spend hours in the gym. The gym needs to be kept in a place where it belongs. And there are places there, there's a time for a longer workout when you're there to clear your head and you're just in the swing of things and you're enjoying yourself. But if you have other things that are your priority, get in, get your work done and get out and move on. Do other things, you know? And so I find that from that place, like a lot of times my circuits are 25 minutes long and I'm out of there and I do that. I take to filled full days off a week and so that's not a lot of time in the gym at all and I eat pretty much what I want with a lot of knowledge obviously of where to place things nutrient wise. But yeah, no I don't let the gym run my life and I don't think that other people should either. It's just knowing how to do it efficiently.

Monica Kade:39:55   Amazing. That was such a great point. I feel like right a highlight to finish on there, but before we finish up I've got some signature questions that I ask all my guests. Of course, sorry. They're fun. So the first one is sunset or sunrise and why?

Amber Dodzweit :40:14   Sunset for sure because I'm a zombie in the morning.

Monica Kade:40:18   Oh awesome. I you, are you a morning person though? Do you, do you get up and train early or does it kind of depend on the day?

Amber Dodzweit :40:26   Well I'm like a ease into the day sort of person. So I get up and I'm fine in the morning, but I like to like read and kind of like have some quiet time and then I work out kind of in the early afternoon.

Monica Kade:40:43   Okay. If you went in your current career, what would you like to attempt? You know,

Amber Dodzweit :40:49   Before I got into fitness, I worked on teeth for like nine years and I absolutely loved it.

Monica Kade:40:57   Wow. Yeah, that's cool. The final one, if you could share a piece of wisdom that you've been passed down or something you know, that you live by, that supported you.

Amber Dodzweit :41:11   Uh, so the whole tagline for my business actually is, um, from a Bible verse actually that says, consider it pure joy when you face trials because you know, the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be complete, mature and lacking nothing

Monica Kade:41:35   Very beautiful and so powerful.

Amber Dodzweit :41:39   It's, it's, it found in James Verse One, uh, or chapter one, verse two, and goes all the way down through four. If you guys are looking for it

Monica Kade:41:50   Amazing, everyone can go on and take a proper read. Well. Ambar our time has come to an end, sadly. So many things I could talk to you about, but thank you so much for being on the show.

Amber Dodzweit :42:02I'm so glad this worked out and I'm excited to get this out there and have my people and your people give it a listen and it'll be great. Thanks again anytime.

Monica Kade:42:13   Thank you for listening to my conversation with amber. I know you loved it because you're still listening right now. I loved it too, and I had so many more questions about we ran out of time. I'd just like to ask you to share this episode with a female friend or a female, you know, in your life that really deserves to hear this episode, and it was supporting them to bring out their best as well. Do the things that make you feel good and alive and remember to live a life of peace. That's one great takeaway I took away from my conversation with amber. If it costs you your peace, it's way too expensive. I have a great week and I'll catch you next week.